Saturday, December 29, 2007



"There is no remedy for love but to love more." Henry David Thoreau, Journal, July 25, 1839**

"I Love My Friends....."

My friends fight with me.
My friends fight for me.
My true friends are the people who know how stupid I can be and love me anyway, and that works both ways.
If you are my friend, you are my everything.
If you are not my friend, you are my nothing.


Wednesday, December 05, 2007

~Life's Lessons~

"Lessons I've Learned Through Living My Life"
There are a lot of things we learn from our parents, teachers, peers, and so on; but there are some lessons we learn only by living. Some of the things we learn are funny and some are heartbreaking.
Here's my list of life's lessons:
1. No human being is perfect.
2. Everyone masturbates.
3. Everyone lies.
4. Everyone needs to be loved and wanted.
5. The world changes everyday.
6. People change everyday.
7. You never dry your poodle in the microwave.
8. You never nap in a tanning bed.
9. You can never go home again.
10. Nothing is ever the same.
11. War is a constant, hate, and greed are the cause.
12. Not everyone we love, loves us back.
13. Dogs are 4 legged humans with fur.
14. Cats are possessed by Satan but blessed by Cupid.
15. Beauty is most times only skin deep.
16. Everyone is beautiful to the people who love us.
17. A mind is a terrible thing to waste, so is a heart, and soul.
18. People are just people.
19. Lust does not last.
20. Love is eternal.
21. God is real.
22. Evil is not God's will.
23. To some people "friend" is just a word.
24. To some people "friend" means that I love you even when you're stupid.
25. To some people "friend" means that I love you even when I'm stupid.
26. Sometimes my lists are way too long.

Saturday, December 01, 2007


"There is no remedy for love but to love more." Henry David Thoreau, Journal, July 25, 1839**

Sharing Love,

Friday, November 23, 2007

~*~Even Friendships Are Relationships~*~

"Even Friendships Are Relationships"

Every connection we have in life with another human being is a relationship. By definition alone, we have some form of relationship with every human being we have in contact with. So whether you're looking for a friend or a soul mate, learn all you can about healthy relationships.
Here's a good article I just read and highly recommend:


~*~Matthew 5:45-48~*~

Mat 5:43

Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.

Mat 5:44
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

Mat 5:45
That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

Mat 5:46
For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?

Mat 5:47
And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more [than others]? do not even the publicans so?

Mat 5:48
Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.

*Please read this and think about what it truly means to you.

Friday, November 09, 2007

~*~*~Because Men Are Men~*~*~

Day in and day out, I hear women complain about men. Men are men. If they were women, I wouldn't want one. LOL. For many years, I've read everything I could get my hands on pertaining to male psychology. The secret men hide from women, is that they are just as special and unique as any woman can be.

Men are so different from women, and yet many of them and many women never fully realize just how far our differences take us. Men experience thoughts and feelings differently than women do. Our brains are actually constructed differently. Men communicate differently and often when they try to communicate with a woman they wind up being punished for it in someway and remember not to make that mistake again. When women actually listen to what men have to say with the understanding that men really do want to communicate with us, a gap is successfully bridged.

We have to remember that the same word can mean different things to different people and even more so when a man communicates with a woman. If we view the men in our lives through a negative filter, we may actually miss a blessing more rewarding than we ever realized possible.

Good luck with that.


Thursday, August 23, 2007

"I May Pass This Way But Once..."

"I may pass this way but once. All that I ask for is a soft place to lay my head, and perhaps a warm blanket and a plate of stew; or maybe just your smile."

P. S. A smile is cheap, easy to do, and it makes all concerned feel happier.

Monday, July 16, 2007

~@~Personal Filtering~@~

It's not always easy to understand why we think, feel, or behave as we do. Cognitive Therapy deals primarily with our view of our personal world and changing misperceptions. To better understand how Cognitive Therapy works, it helps to understand what Cognitive Distortions are and how they work. Once again, I've stolen a list from and you'll need to go to that site to read the article in it's entirety.

List Of Cognitive Distortions:

"Related links are suggested in parentheses.
All-or-nothing thinking - Thinking of things in absolute terms, like "always", "every" or "never". Few aspects of human behavior are so absolute. (See false dilemma.)
Overgeneralization - Taking isolated cases and using them to make wide generalizations. (See hasty generalization.)
Mental filter - Focusing exclusively on certain, usually negative or upsetting, aspects of something while ignoring the rest, like a tiny imperfection in a piece of clothing. (See misleading vividness.)
Disqualifying the positive - Continually "shooting down" positive experiences for arbitrary, ad hoc reasons. (See special pleading.)
Jumping to conclusions - Assuming something negative where there is no evidence to support it. Two specific subtypes are also identified:
Mind reading - Assuming the intentions of others.
Fortune telling - Predicting how things will turn before they happen. (See slippery slope.)
Magnification and Minimization - Inappropriately understating or exaggerating the way people or situations truly are. Often the positive characteristics of other people are exaggerated and negative characteristics are understated. There is one subtype of magnification:
Catastrophizing - Focusing on the worst possible outcome, however unlikely, or thinking that a situation is unbearable or impossible when it is really just uncomfortable.
Emotional reasoning - Making decisions and arguments based on how you feel rather than objective reality. (See appeal to consequences.)
Making should statements - Concentrating on what you think "should" or ought to be rather than the actual situation you are faced with, or having rigid rules which you think should always apply no matter what the circumstances are. (See wishful thinking.)
Labeling - Related to overgeneralization, explaining by naming. Rather than describing the specific behavior, you assign a label to someone or yourself that puts them in absolute and unalterable terms.
Personalization (or attribution) - Assuming you or others directly caused things when that may not have been the case. (See illusion of control.) When applied to others this is an example of blame."*taken from

Before we can understand others, we must first understand ourselves.

~@~Read, Learn, And Analyze~@~

"Pay Attention And READ More"

Yes I steal a lot of psychology material from other sources but only in the name of good. Besides to read this article below in it's entirety you'll need to go to and look up Defence Mechanisms.

"List of defense mechanisms

Sigmund Freud was the first person to develop the concept of defense mechanisms, however it was his daughter Anna Freud who clarified and conceptualized it. She has described various different defense mechanisms:

Identification. The unconscious modeling of one's self upon another person's behavior.

Inversion. Refocusing of aggression or emotions evoked from an external force onto one's self.

Substitution. When a person replaces one feeling or emotion for another. " *taken from

Unfortunately I cannot help anyone who doesn't understand this information to understand it. I have more training and experience when it comes to the human mind and human behavior than most people in the general population, but I did understand Defence Mechanisms before I ever considered becoming a psychotherapist.
Good luck,

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

5 Easy Ways To Lose A Man

Babbling Again?

5 Easy Ways To Lose A Man

1) Calling Him All The Time
2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning4) Telling Him How You "Feel" Too Early On
5) Keep Telling Him How You Feel When He NeedsSpace